Trust is pretty much defined as belief, assurance, faith. To have faith is to trust. To believe something will happen is to trust.
Sometimes it is hard to trust. A lot of times it’s almost impossible. Having faith, trusting completely in someone or something, is not a simple thing to do. I am convinced that the strongest people are the ones who trust the most. Why? What is the opposite of trust? Doubt. What are feelings associated with doubt? Fear and uncertainty. So, to trust is to be confident, and confidence is strength. Confidence is not fearing the unknown.
Why do so many of us find it so hard to trust? We weren’t born that way. In fact we are born trusting. Mistrust is a learned behavior, a gradual reaction to life’s twists and turns, letdowns by people we care about, and decisions that cause bad outcomes.
When we are young, we trust. We trust our parents and other adults to care for us and protect us. We trust that our needs for food, shelter, clothing and love will be met. For most little ones, these needs are provided for, for some, unfortunately, these things that should be provided, are not. This can be the beginning of doubt and fear for children.
For those who have a happy childhood home, other factors can begin to chip away at the trust we are born with. Things such as other children, bullies, the loss of a parent or sibling. These things crack away at our confidence that everything will be okay. We gradually learn about the harsh realities of mean human beings, illness, and death.
Some of us manage to make it to young adulthood with most of our trust intact. Then we may learn about what heartbreak from lovers feels like. We learn about responsibilities and the heartache of failing at something we tried to accomplish. We learn that life is hard, people can be cruel, and that our bodies may fail us.
I have trust issues. I have trusted people who have betrayed me. I have trusted that someone would always be there for me, and then they passed away. I have trusted that when I was ready to conceive a child, that my body would do what it was supposed to do. People have hurt me, and life has hurt me. I have spent most of my adult life wary, closed off, and overly independent. No one can let you down if you just do everything yourself. Or so I thought.
I love God. Like truly love Him. I crave time with Him, love learning about Him, and the more I learn, the more fascinated I become. I have always loved Him, but I did not always spend the time with Him that I should have. And, while I always loved Him, I lost my trust somewhere along the way.
When we are children, we trust Him, if we know Him. We trust Him with a child-like wonder that tends to fade away. What we really need is to get that child-like trust and wonder back. To trust Him like a child, to love with amazement and awe. He created the heavens and earth, He created everything, including you and me. What can’t He do? How can we not trust Him with everything, when He is the maker of everything?
I honestly believe that true happiness with life comes with trusting God with everything, big and small. There is a peace that comes with trust, even when everything else seems like it’s falling down around you.
It’s not easy, it’s learned. We have to relearn trust. We have to work at it, pray about it, strive for it, and learn to let go. Through every trial, and every joy, once you learn that in reality you have no control of anything, that control is an illusion, that anything can change at a moment’s notice, and you learn to just breathe, let go, and watch God do His work, you will find true peace. All you have to do is your best, and trust. God will do the rest. He is the parent we deserve, the one who provides all our needs, and sometimes our wants, if those wants are good for us.
God is the perfect parent, He’s never too tired, and never runs out of resources when we need Him. He loves to love and care for us. He loves to love.
If you have trust issues, I encourage you to pray. Your very best step is learning to trust God, and letting him lead the way. His way will always be the right way, even if the path is confusing at first.
Take it from me, I was the queen of distrust and doubt. I was stressed, sad, doubtful and full of worry. I was a complete mess. If God can fix me, I promise you, He can fix you.
Love, let go, pray, trust Him, and watch Him work. You’ll be amazed, I promise.
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. – Romans 15:13