Are you a Fixer? Do you spend a large portion of your day completing tasks, big and small, some noticeable and some not so much, in order to make life a little easier for others around you? Do you find yourself wondering, at the conclusion of your day, where all your time flew off to? Does it seem as if time itself sprouted wings and flitted away like a lackadaisical butterfly, and you are running around trying to predict where time will land so that you can capture it? Do you feel accomplished by this, or are you overworked, under appreciated, and full of anxiety about all the tomorrows?
If you feel stressed more than not, join The Fixer club.
Hello there! My nickname is Nay, and I enjoy Fixing other peoples problems. I think it must be some sort of addiction, as I’ve got an addictive personality that I am totally working on.
I am a work in progress. I am a Fixer in the process of being Fixed. The majority of people like me, The Fixers, are broken people. The fact is, everyone is broken, in some way or another. This whole world needs repair, except not everybody realizes that they need work. I just happen to fall into the category of a self-aware Fixer-upper.
People like me are really good at Fixing things, because we more easily recognize the needs of those who are broken. We long to make the world a little easier, and we desperately desire to prevent the aches and pains that are caused by being broken. We want to protect others around us. In fact, we recognize kindred souls immediately, and damaged people are our forte. We spend so much time trying to make things easier for others that sometimes we neglect our own self maintenance. This is a big mistake for The Fixers, because when a Fixer crashes and burns, they are no longer able to be The Fixers.
So what happens when a Fixer can’t Fix? I’ll tell you, because I’ve been there. A Fixer who can’t Fix feels useless. They feel out of control. They feel burdened, anxious, stressed. They worry incessantly, and they go from getting everything done to nothing done at all. A Fixer who can’t Fix needs Fixing, and this is way more complicated than it sounds. Sometimes a Fixer does not accept help very easily, and sometimes not very graciously. They feel weak, they feel burdensome, they feel disappointed in themselves. Have you ever tried to help somebody only to have that person lash out at you? Honestly, I think we all have. Most likely this was a person in the midst of a personal struggle, a person used to Fixing, who finds themselves on the other side of that broken line.
They. Do. Not. Like. It. Not one little bit.
This broken land is uncomfortable, and they want to Fix it themselves. This bad behavior is no excuse for a Fixer to be rude, hurtful, or unFixable. This is because the best Fixers are the ones who allow themselves to be Fixed.
Think about all the glorious Fixers on this planet. The doctors and nurses who Fix what ails us. The teachers who help Fix the world with vast arrays of knowledge. The artists who fill and Fix our world with the beauty of their art, their words, their colors, their songs. Our preachers preaching healing words, destined to Fix our minds on what is truly important. Our military and our police, who help Fix the broken souls trying to hurt the rest of us. Can you even imagine a world without these wonderful people?
Now what if these amazing people refused to be Fixed? What if a doctor refused antibiotics for an illness he has been healing in others? What if a teacher refused to learn everything about a subject she is trying to educate others about? What if an artist or a preacher refused to let their work be heard, critiqued or fine tuned, and they just hid it away from the rest of us? What if our military or police refused assistance and tried to take on the world’s problem’s singlehandedly? We would all be in trouble, and we would all live in a hard, cold, colorless, and dangerous world.
I don’t know about you, but I am a Fixer who needs to be Fixed. I need work. I need help. Always. I’m learning that I can’t do it all, and that I definitely can’t do it all by myself. I need The Fixer. I need the ONE, the ONLY, the EVERYTHING. I need Jesus, and so do you.
He came to Fix everything. He came to Fix the broken, the hurting, the sinners, the used, the abused. He came to Fix it all, because we just can’t. Try though we might, we were meant for more than a solo life. We were made to help and to be helped, but in order to be helped we need to let go. We need to be Fixed.
So keep on Fixing! The world needs you. But just remember that you are always needing to be Fixed too, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You were made for more, created for more, so let Jesus do His work. Let Him Fix what needs to be Fixed in you, so that you may help Fix what needs to be Fixed in others. The work never ends, but neither do the rewards.
P.S. It’s import work, this Fixing, but remember some words of good advice: “If it ain’t broke, don’t Fix it.” – Burt Lance
As always, God bless.
Ray
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in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
Proverbs 3:6
Wait for the Lord ; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord .
Psalms 27:14
You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
Jeremiah 29:13
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Romans 12:21
for it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.
Philippians 2:13
Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
James 4:7
For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
Ephesians 2:10